More thoughts on Life’s Big Question #4

What lesson has it taken you the longest to learn? For me it is both ACCEPTANCE and PATIENCE!

Here are some more of my thoughts on these subjects…

With regard to ACCEPTANCE, having cared for my husband with Alzheimer’s for 5 years—that experience was my lesson in ACCEPTANCE. It was a very painful process to see the love of my life taken away one brain cell at a time! I had the choice of letting it kill me too or somehow coming to terms with “What Is.” I learned that stress and unhappiness are created when “What Is” is different than what you want or expect. So ACCEPTANCE comes to your rescue. So, over time I learned to ACCEPT that all this was my lesson in ACCEPTANCE!

I come by JUDGEMENT naturally—I inherited it from my father :-) I used to say about him “Here come da Judge!” So, ACCEPTANCE of not only circumstances but individuals with their personalities and beliefs continues to be an ongoing process. I’m comforted in knowing that life is not a destination but a journey and that eventually I will get it right.

Here’s a priceless Quote from the movie, “Second Best Exotic Marigold Hotel”… “Everything will be fine in the end and if it’s not fine, it’s not the end.”

I would like to share this as an example of ACCEPTING “WHAT IS”…

“Thinking isolates a situation or event and calls it good or bad, as if it had a separate existence. The deeper interconnectedness of all things and events implies that the mental labels of “good” and “bad” are ultimately illusory. They always imply a limited perspective.

This is illustrated in the story of a wise man who won an expensive car in a lottery. His family and friends were very happy for him and came to celebrate. “Isn’t it great!” they said. “You are so lucky.” The man smiled and said, “Maybe.” For a few weeks he enjoyed driving the car. Then one day a drunken driver crashed into his new car at an intersection and he ended up in the hospital, with multiple injuries. His family and friends came to see him and said, “That was really unfortunate.’ Again the man said, “Maybe.” While he was still in the hospital, one night there was a landslide and his house fell into the sea. Again his friends came the next day and said, “Weren’t you lucky to have been here in the hospital.” Again he said, “Maybe.”

This wise man’s “maybe” signifies a refusal to judge anything that happens. Instead of judging what is, he accepts it and so enters into conscious alignment with the higher order. He knows that often it is impossible for the mind to understand what place or purpose a seemingly random event has in the tapestry of the whole. But there are no random events, nor are there events or things that exist by and for themselves, in isolation.” –Taken from “A New Earth” by Eckhart Tolle, pgs. 196-197


With regard to PATIENCE, all I can say about this at this time is that AT&T Internet service is providing my current lesson in PATIENCE–aghhhhhhhhhh!!

One Response to More thoughts on Life’s Big Question #4

  • Dori Thomas says:

    Oh my Sally, yes!! Your “lessons” have been trying, and make mine seem unimportant really. Its so easy to fall into disappointment when things don’t go “our way” and at the time the “acceptance” can seem excruciating (at least for me).
    I love the Maybe story, that will stick with me now and I proclaim to now have a new attitude about how I accept things. I too am stating today to you and the world that I will no longer be Judge and will from now on just be Allowing! Thanks so much for your wisdom and insight!